Inspiration

Navigating a Life After Addiction

There is a desire for change when a person enters an addiction recovery program. The habits and tendencies that previously drove their decision-making have been deemed unhealthy, unproductive, and they are unwilling to continue down the same road.

This leads many to seek addiction recovery treatment. Many people struggling with addiction are lost and a curriculum based on teachings found in the Bible help them to recover from their sickness.

But it all begins with a dream of starting over and living a new life.

However, transitioning into this new reality can be difficult. A person struggling with addiction might have used substances as a crutch before, but that isn’t available to them any longer.

So how does a person fresh out of Christian addiction treatment find their way in a sober world?

Set Expectations

The person that emerges from Christian addiction treatment is different from the person that enters. Your capacity for love and rational thinking is dramatically increased. So is your ability to provide assistance to others and take care of yourself.

You need to set new standards for yourself. Speak to family members and friends and let them know how you will be contributing. You should also understand that your family has, in many cases, years of seeing the negative effects from your addiction. This should cause you to be patient and humble while you earn trust back.

Visit S2L Recovery to learn more about how Christian alcohol treatment can give you back your life.

Remember What Made You Want To Change

It will be tempting to return to your old life. Our memories tend to become more positive as we gain distance from troubled times. But remember, this is not the whole picture. You must remember what it was like just before entering Christian addiction treatment.

Don’t lose sight of whatever it was that convinced you it was time for a change. You can get through these temptations. A clear view on what brought you to this point can be a great asset.

Enjoy Your Family and Friends

Christian addiction treatment gives you your life back. Many people struggling with addiction grow distant from their loved ones. This is your chance to rekindle those relationships.

But at the same time, you need to take stock of the people you are surrounding yourself with. Avoid surrounding yourself with people that are stuck in your old lifestyle. These people might be your friends, but they are not on the same path as you are now on.

Find New Hobbies

You’re going to have a lot of spare time. The time you spent chasing or using drugs and alcohol are now yours to invest with. Suddenly having this much time on your hands is a great gift. Is there something you always wanted to learn how to do but just didn’t have the time? This is your opportunity.

Use your new life to grow and experience new things.

Rebuild Trust

Many people who have struggled with addiction have damaged their personal relationships with decisions they made. And while you may not be proud of these mistakes, it is your responsibility to own them. The power of Christ can give you the strength you need to have difficult conversations with your loved ones. Although in Christ you are a new creation often times, we still must deal with the seeds that were sown while living a life of addiction. After returning home the situation is that there is a new hope you are not alone to walk this new journey.

But that’s only the beginning. Truly rebuilding trust takes time. It’s not something that can be done with words. It must be demonstrated with actions and fortified by time. So be patient. Everything might not fall back into place immediately, but continued practice will make the necessary strides.

Establish a Routine

Your health should become a main focus. A life spent battling an addiction to alcohol and drugs will leave a person’s body in ruins. We can’t undo the damage we’ve done in the past. But we can use the present and the future to move toward a point of health and strength.

Exercise and proper diet will serve you in two different ways. First, it will improve your physical health. You’ll feel better. You’ll look better. And second, exercise will improve your mental health. And in times like these, we can use all the help we can get.

Stay In Touch With God

Your journey with God doesn’t stop when you complete Christian alcohol treatment. This is a lifelong conversation. The help, guidance, and assistance gained from a strong relationship with the creator will help you remain strong as you face life.

The lessons gained from our 7 Principles curriculum will do more than help you maintain sobriety. These are lessons that will inform decisions and viewpoints for the rest of your life.

Contact S2L Recover today.

Imagine Your Life After Addiction

Life can seem hopeless when you’re in the middle of an addiction. And these hopeless feelings can lead to resigning yourself to a life of dependence on alcohol and drugs. It’s a self-sustaining circle that keeps you in the middle of addictive activities.

However, there’s a way out. Faith based rehab facilities like S2L Recovery help people find their way out of the shadows of addiction through the teachings of the Bible. These words of truth act as a guide along the winding road to freedom from addiction. It takes a lot of work and dedication, but it is possible. Living a life free from addiction can give you a second chance.

And it all starts with a singular question: What would my life look like without an addiction?

This question can become a reality. Here’s what you can look forward to once you leave your addictions behind.

Feeling Better All the Time

Hangovers make it feel as if you just can’t get in step with the day. These persistent feelings of sluggishness, nausea, and general malaise haunt every waking moment of the life of someone struggling with addiction. This is one of the motivations to continue using. You’re always seeking a way to feel better.

But people who don’t struggle with alcohol and drugs don’t have this problem. In fact, that feeling of normalcy you are always chasing is their standard mode of operation.

This is one major benefit of freedom. You start each day without a deficit. Imagine waking up and being excited to see what the day has in store.

Listen to the Life After Addiction podcast by S2L Recovery to learn more!

More Confidence

Those suffering from addiction often feel the need to hide their behaviors. This means they are always in fear of someone finding out their secrets. Each day is a series of deflections and hidden activities that can make the person feel as if they are not as suitable for society as others.

Freedom from addiction means you don’t have to hide anything. “ A person who hides nothing has nothing to hide” You can live your life out in the open, without worry that someone is going to learn your secrets. This boost of confidence will compound with the increased feelings of health to keep you in high spirits throughout the day.

No Shame

Shame often accompanies the disappearing confidence that can be the result of a person struggling with addiction and hiding their behaviors. These situations often leave a person ashamed of how they spend their time. These people are also often ashamed of their behavior while under the influence of drugs or alcohol.

Shame is a great motivating factor in remaining unmotivated. It feeds into the circle of addiction which keeps the person using. But it doesn’t have to be this way. Faith based rehab facilities like S2L Recovery help you to not only conquer your addiction, but also to forgive yourself for these things of which you might be ashamed.

Self-Acceptance

Using drugs and alcohol is often the result of a person running away from themself. Faith based rehab facilities not only show you the way to freedom through the teachings of Christ, they also help you to love and accept yourself for who you are.

This is an important factor in a happy, healthy life. Self-acceptance comes with greater understanding and control over your emotions and actions. Addiction makes it impossible to control these things. But your life after addiction will imbue you with capabilities you didn’t know you could have.

More Time for the Things and People You Love

Are there any activities you used to enjoy but don’t find the time for anymore? What about people? Are there members of your family or friends you haven’t seen for a long time? Addiction not only costs us our physical health. It also steals the precious time we have on Earth.

Freedom won’t be able to give this time back to you, but it can help you make the most of the time you have left. Seeing the world with clear eyes gives you the opportunity to reconnect with loved ones. Not spending your time using alcohol and drugs frees you up to rekindle your love of activities you previously enjoyed.

Bright Future

Overall, a life after addiction is much brighter than the darkness a person struggling with addiction might see for themselves. Each day is a new opportunity. And when you aren’t being dragged down by that darkness of addiction, these days will be full of promise.

Faith based rehab facilities offer viewpoints and possibilities other facilities can’t match. S2L Recovery helps people by teaching a 7 Principles curriculum based on 2nd Peter 1:3-10 ESV:

3 His divine power has granted to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of him who called us to his own glory and excellence, 4 by which he has granted to us his precious and very great promises, so that through them you may become partakers of the divine nature, having escaped from the corruption that is in the world because of sinful desire. 5 For this very reason, make every effort to supplement your faith with virtue, and virtue with knowledge, 6 and knowledge with self-control, and self-control with steadfastness, and steadfastness with godliness, 7 and godliness with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love. 8 For if these qualities are yours and are increasing, they keep you from being ineffective or unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. 9 For whoever lacks these qualities is so nearsighted that he is blind, having forgotten that he was cleansed from his former sins. 10 Therefore, brothers, be all the more diligent to confirm your calling and election, for if you practice these qualities you will never fall.

We understand that every person is different, and a pre-set program of the traditional 12 steps isn’t going to work for everyone. This is why we take an individualized approach to treating addiction.

Contact S2L Recovery today to learn more.

Warning Signs of Relapse

We don't instill in our participants the notion that once an addict always an addict. But, we would be remiss to say that once you find freedom, you are immune to all temptations. Relapse is possible. Statistically, the first 90 to 180 days after leaving an addiction center are the most crucial for individuals. Recognizing the signs of relapse will go far regarding treatment. We are complex humans put on this earth by our Creator. Each response to triggers will be different. But, general awareness is progressive.

The Stages of Relapse

Relapse doesn't come to light over a singular event. It evolves over a series of stages.

Emotional

Maybe the first warning sign would be emotional changes. An emotional change would happen before anyone would start using again. Things to look for are a shift in moods, highly anxious, or more negative responses to everyday situations. When the emotions change so will eating and sleeping habits. Lack of sustenance will alter other states of being. But, a good indicator that someone is under emotional duress is not turning to their support system. Identifying any or some of these traits could have a crucial part to play in preventing relapse.

Mental

Mentally relapsing is the second characteristic change. Mentally relapsing includes an internal struggle. The person might question why they stopped using and ask themselves if going back to that lifestyle is something they want. At S2L, we don’t encourage our participants to believe that once an addict always an addict. In times of mental anguish, we encourage those to pause, reflect, and be reminded of the Freedom found in the Lord.

Physical

The final stage is the actual use of the substance. Whether it is drugs or alcohol, once the person has decided to use, it's only a matter of time before they do. The physical stage of using is what most people associate with "relapse." But, as you can see, there are other indicators that if addressed in time, could help someone.

Common Relapse Triggers

We could break down the triggers into two categories: internal and external. External triggers include people, places, and any activity that could spark a response. Internal triggers are complex. These triggers are emotional responses, feelings, or thoughts.

External Triggers

  • People - From friends to family, even strangers can become a trigger. Ideally, those who are going through treatment won't engage with those they know who are using substances.
  • Places - Somewhere with a strong emotional connection could be considered high risk. It could involve negative experiences while they were growing up or have some connection to them while they were using.
  • Activities - Family gatherings, holidays, or celebrations are challenging for those who are going through recovery. Sometimes these events include substances which make attendance even harder.

"Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery trial when it comes upon you to test you, as though something strange was happening to you." – 1 Peter 4:12

Internal Triggers

People are complex by design. Our Creator designed us this way. Internal struggles will look differently for everyone. But, some common issues transcend most individuals. Stress from work, relationships, or finances could impact the way a person walks through recovery. Assigning negative thoughts or emotions to our self-worth is another strain. Managing and tolerating negative thoughts and feelings is what faith-based recovery treatment centers, like S2L, are designed to do.

Setting Yourself Up for Success

Becoming aware of your triggers takes time. That's why support from the community at S2L is beneficial for success. External triggers can be managed through the identification of people, places, or events. Here are a few questions to ask yourself or a loved one who might be going through a relapse:

  • Are you currently in a situation that makes you want to use?
  • Did any new situations spark thoughts of using substances?
  • Will an upcoming event or time spent with friends or family cause cravings?

You can approach internal triggers the same way. Since internal responses of emotional connection are a little more nuanced, it's encouraged to spend some time on internal reflection and prayer. At times, when we feel like we are empty, we try to fill that void with a form of idol worship.

"No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it. Therefore, my dear friends, flee from idolatry." Corinthians 10:13-14

Faith-Based Recovery with S2L

S2L Recovery is a Christ-Centered rehab facility located in Middle Tennessee. We believe your addiction doesn't define you. Our curriculum is based on the idea that you do not have to be an addict for the rest of your life. Getting the help you need is the first step to success. Once you commit to S2L, we will be there with you every step of the way, offering you 24/7 support. Contact us to learn more about our curriculum.

Recovery Tips for a Sober Summer

Summer is just around the corner. For us Middle Tennessee residents it can mean an increase in activities. We often associate winter weather with negative moods, but summer can bring about negative changes also. You would think with more sunshine it would have the opposite effect. But, in truth, we always need to manage our recovery process regardless of the season. We take a closer look at how temperatures affect our mood and give you some tips to help you stay sober.

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Avoiding Relapse During the Holidays

Between gift giving, celebrations, and time with family, the holidays are stressful. And, for everyone. Those who are recovering from addiction may find it harder. With an amplified social calendar, money spent on gifts, and spending time with loved ones, we can forget to think about ourselves. What is supposed to be a time full of love and cheer can turn into stress and dismay if the appropriate steps aren’t taken. There are many ways to celebrate the life God has given us and honor the birth of Jesus while avoiding relapse.

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H.O.P.E. – Hold On, Pain Ends

Holding onto Hope through Recovery

I remember like it was yesterday dropping my loved one off at a rehab facility and saying goodbye for the next six months, which seemed like forever to be without my best friend. The flood of emotions saying goodbye in conjunction with the all-consuming feelings of what our bondage of addiction had already entailed was overwhelming. Tears flowed freely throughout my four-hour ride home with what I would call a sense relief along with a ray of hope – which is something that I hadn’t felt in a long time.

Life had been entangled and engrossed by my loved one. I felt so lost throughout my first week without him. As much of a relief, it was that he was safe and getting help, I found myself at a loss with him gone. A loss of worry, a loss of what to do with myself, and sadly, a loss of purpose. I had taken care of this person for so long and spent my life trying to save him, what do I do now? The question I kept coming back to was, how do I heal? One of the hardest realizations was that I was in need of recovery too. Just as much as addicts need healing and recovery, so do the ones that care for them. I accepted that in order to heal together, we must heal apart and take care of our own wounds.

The Seasons of Healing

Unfortunately, seasons of addiction are not a one-man sport, the whole family gets to play. What starts out as something so innocent and unknown turns into something you never expected. My journey was killing me. Physically, emotionally, and mentally. I stopped eating, stopped sleeping, and stopped dreaming with this big, cheery heart of mine. I started losing every piece of myself. Every second was wrapped up with worry. Every situation was ridden with bitterness and resentment. I’m sure others know these feelings all too well. You may be at the beginning of this journey, or you may be in the ray-of-light middle, but most importantly, I want you to know that you aren’t alone. On the darkest nights, you still aren’t alone.

Shortly into my journey to healing, a mentor told me something so simple which made it all so clear. Their words were, “Just as someone cannot love us enough into making us love ourselves, is the same in that we cannot love someone enough to make them love themselves enough to want to heal from addiction.”

Healing comes from within and learning to love ourselves through God’s eyes, not the world’s. With this epiphany, as hard as it was to admit, I was crippling a man who was capable of walking because I chose to carry him. I was lovingly enabling him and it was time to lovingly detach from him. And at that moment, I realized he was not mine to save and that the healing started within me. It was between God and me, not John and I.

I had to ask for John’s forgiveness and for God’s. I realized that I had tried to love him so much and to make life so perfect that surely, he would never pick up using again. That if I could make life easy enough, that clearly, he wouldn’t want that life of addiction anymore. But I wasn’t capable of holding that power. The only person that could love him enough to heal him was and still is God. I was carrying a burden that wasn’t meant for me to carry.

Some words of the Lord that helped heal me through this journey are:

“For I, the Lord your God, hold your right hand; it is I who say to you, “Fear not, I am the one who helps you.” Isaiah 41:13

Accepting the Lord’s Power of Healing & Recovery

In the quiet of my bedroom, broken and hopeless, with tears streaming down my face, I closed my eyes, and I released my grip and handed him over to God. “He is yours now God. Your will be done, not mine.” And in that very moment, I felt the peace that I had searched for in so many different places. A truth that only God could give to me. And just like that, my journey to healing and recovery began.

This choice of acceptance is one that you have to make every morning, if not 100 times a day. I had a mentor tell me one day in a fit of fear, “Lay him back down at God’s feet, you’ve picked him back up.” In some weak and fleshly moments, I still think that I can save him and protect him. God will allow me to pick him back up because that is my selfish will. However daily I release the stubborn resistance and I continue to lay him back down with a sign, every single time of ‘I told you, child, I have him and I’m taking care of him.’

It’s in those moments when trust has been ripped and broken, that I smile because I am learning where my trust truly comes from and He has yet to fail me. Restoration with our loved ones and with God comes in so many forms during this healing process. I became grateful for the wounds that pushed me towards God. I think that’s the most beautiful part.

You think you love the one suffering more than life itself? Well if you can imagine this, God loves them even more than that! The feeling of His kind of love is unfathomable and beyond our deepest imagination. How deep it goes and how wide it stretches, there is nothing, absolutely nothing, that will tear God away from His children. Lay the ones struggling down at God’s feet. Drop that tug-a-war rope, let go and let God do his work. Watch them fall into his bountiful grace and watch God pick them up and heal as you’ve never seen healing before.

Journey Down the Path of Recovery with the Addict You Love

Life is an interwoven and intricate plan. I know that this may not be the path you would have chosen for your child, dad, mom, partner, sibling, friend or other loved one, but what I can tell you is that you are about to see God work and He will heal if you will allow Him. Don’t miss the miracle of recovery. Lay this weight down, take off this burden that you are carrying, and give it to a man who died in order to carry it for us. There is healing in His promises. Let him wash you clean. If you have never been a believer, I promise you will not regret it. Finding your faith is like coming home to a place of the most magnificent feeling you’ve ever felt after chasing everything that never made you happy. To wake up knowing God is on your side is enough.

Remember, it is now time to take care of you. You are deserving and you are worthy, don’t ever forget that! It’s time to go to bed knowing that God is working for your good (Romans 8:28). Rest peacefully. Wake up in the morning with a joy that you haven’t felt in a long time. Remember what it feels like to laugh so hard you can’t stop. This is what the Lord’s light will serve you, and beyond.

Releasing the burden of fixing your addicted loved one to God grants you well-deserved freedom. It allows you to be able to go through a day knowing that everything has been taken care of before you put your feet on the ground. To forgive yourself for the things that you did and didn’t do. Guilt that you’ve held onto for far too long. To let go of that blame that you’ve let the enemy hold you to. It’s time to learn to enjoy all the things that you once did again.

Find new passions. Grow in his strength. And know that you absolutely, wholeheartedly, did not cause your loved one’s addiction, you can’t control it, and you can’t change it. Don’t worry though because God can. It’s time to take care of you. Most importantly, learn to love yourself again. Be gentle to yourself, you are meeting parts of yourself that you have been at war with for far too long. Let the healing hands of God wash over you. Let the miracle begin!

S2L Recovery Healing Addicts Through the Lord’s Light in Middle TN

Our community at S2L Recovery focuses on getting the help addicts need through God’s guidance and the Christian faith. We not only heal those addicted to drugs and alcohol, but we also help heal their loved ones, the ones who also need a path to recovery. By working in unity, we can all heal the wounds from a harmful addiction and we can all work towards growing with the Lord. If you or someone you love is struggling with an addiction reach out to S2L Recovery today to begin the journey to recovery.